Personal Opinion of TMS on Relationship of Mine

SovareZza

SovareZza

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This is more personal than anything else, and because I don't know any of you (other than Nimmy), I thought the opinion of you all - or those willing to post to this - would help provide me with insight into how I should pursue aforementioned topic.

Anyway, here's the lowdown (I'm drunk):

I have a girlfriend, of who I have feelings for, but don't love. I hope you understand what I mean.
Anywho, my ex-girlfriend (who brought you this topic), of who I can say I love whole-heartily (I know I'm 17 but go to hell, I know how I feel), feels the same way about me as I do her. There are a few problems however, such as she lives 800 kilometers away from me. Also, her entire family hates me and if they knew we were talking, I'd have an AVO out against me.

My question is, of which I want the opinion of those who read this (yes, ANYONE who reads this. eg, Stybar etc.), should I stick with my girlfriend, of which is a virgin and wants me to take her virginity, or should I break up with her and wait for another year (one year exactly, to be exact. Her birthday is today, where as my current girlfriend's is yesterday (current: 23/02; ex: 24/02)) for my ex to be able to be with me legally without the hassle of her family putting an AVO out against me/telling me to kill myself (her brothers both have told me to kill myself).

inb4 you're a dog, etc. I know I'm a lowlife, etc. I haven't had sex in a while and I don't know whether I want to have intercourse with random wimmenz or abstain until it can be with her. I'm thinking the latter but I'm not sure, to be honest.

Anyway, help a drunk man out?
 
If you have feelings like these towards your ex-girlfriend you shouldn't be with your current girlfriend.
Just saying, sorry for the moralfag, but you shouldn't mess with a girl's feelings like that.

And if you truly love your ex, I'd drive those 800kms or idk, and fuck everybody who says you need to commit suicide or whatever.
I don't want to turn my reply in a romance, but if you both love each other so much, I would try and visit her (especially on her birthday)

Anyway good luck with all this, and if you decide to go visit her, safe trip bro!
 
Mave said:
If you have feelings like these towards your ex-girlfriend you shouldn't be with your current girlfriend.
Just saying, sorry for the moralfag, but you shouldn't mess with a girl's feelings like that.

And if you truly love your ex, I'd drive those 800kms or idk, and fuck everybody who says you need to commit suicide or whatever.
I don't want to turn my reply in a romance, but if you both love each other so much, I would try and visit her (especially on her birthday)

Anyway good luck with all this, and if you decide to go visit her, safe trip bro!
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MAVEEEEE!
Easier said than done, I'm afraid. I would be down to see her in a heartbeat if I could afford it in any way, shape or form, but I just can't. Like I said, I'd rather not see her and be able to speak to her rather than not be able to do either and have an AVO out against me.

I don't condemn moralfags either, I enjoy the opinions I receive from others and take them into consideration.

I'm the kind of person who likes to fuck with people, emotionally, mentally, etc. I know I'm a c*nt for doing so, but it's just something that I enjoy and I hate it.

Ever since talking to Ashlea again (ex), I've been considering breaking it off with my current girlfriend. It's hard though when you know you're the only reason she hasn't killed herself yet.

Basically, I'm in a pickle. I love being drunk!
 
SovareZza said:
Mave said:
If you have feelings like these towards your ex-girlfriend you shouldn't be with your current girlfriend.
Just saying, sorry for the moralfag, but you shouldn't mess with a girl's feelings like that.

And if you truly love your ex, I'd drive those 800kms or idk, and fuck everybody who says you need to commit suicide or whatever.
I don't want to turn my reply in a romance, but if you both love each other so much, I would try and visit her (especially on her birthday)

Anyway good luck with all this, and if you decide to go visit her, safe trip bro!
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MAVEEEEE!
Easier said than done, I'm afraid. I would be down to see her in a heartbeat if I could afford it in any way, shape or form, but I just can't. Like I said, I'd rather not see her and be able to speak to her rather than not be able to do either and have an AVO out against me.

I don't condemn moralfags either, I enjoy the opinions I receive from others and take them into consideration.

I'm the kind of person who likes to fuck with people, emotionally, mentally, etc. I know I'm a c*nt for doing so, but it's just something that I enjoy and I hate it.

Ever since talking to Ashlea again (ex), I've been considering breaking it off with my current girlfriend. It's hard though when you know you're the only reason she hasn't killed herself yet.

Basically, I'm in a pickle. I love being drunk!
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Then it won't work man :/
If you can't go to here in fear of an AVO, then I really don't know man.

Also you must feel something for your current girlfriend, why not try to work on that?

I want to say 'try to forget your ex', but I know that's easier said then done, so I won't say that. (although I just did)
 
Mave said:
SovareZza said:
Mave said:
If you have feelings like these towards your ex-girlfriend you shouldn't be with your current girlfriend.
Just saying, sorry for the moralfag, but you shouldn't mess with a girl's feelings like that.

And if you truly love your ex, I'd drive those 800kms or idk, and fuck everybody who says you need to commit suicide or whatever.
I don't want to turn my reply in a romance, but if you both love each other so much, I would try and visit her (especially on her birthday)

Anyway good luck with all this, and if you decide to go visit her, safe trip bro!
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MAVEEEEE!
Easier said than done, I'm afraid. I would be down to see her in a heartbeat if I could afford it in any way, shape or form, but I just can't. Like I said, I'd rather not see her and be able to speak to her rather than not be able to do either and have an AVO out against me.

I don't condemn moralfags either, I enjoy the opinions I receive from others and take them into consideration.

I'm the kind of person who likes to fuck with people, emotionally, mentally, etc. I know I'm a c*nt for doing so, but it's just something that I enjoy and I hate it.

Ever since talking to Ashlea again (ex), I've been considering breaking it off with my current girlfriend. It's hard though when you know you're the only reason she hasn't killed herself yet.

Basically, I'm in a pickle. I love being drunk!
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Then it won't work man :/
If you can't go to here in fear of an AVO, then I really don't know man.

Also you must feel something for your current girlfriend, why not try to work on that?

I want to say 'try to forget your ex', but I know that's easier said then done, so I won't say that. (although I just did)
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Well, she's coming to my town in April because she has other friends here, not just me. She's coming by herself so she's said she will come see me, and that could lead us down a road of which I have not been down in a while. And by that I don't mean sex, I mean actually giving a damn about a woman.

And for Maddy(gf), I'd rather not lie to her and potentially have her kill herself after I take her v's (at this point I'm not going to). I was moving on from Ash, but she always has a way of sucking me back in. And I never have any problem with it because I don't want to forget her, I want to live the rest of my life with her at my side.

I'll wait for the opinion of others too, although I doubt I am to receive it.
 
I hate to be a buzz killer, but 800 kilometers is quite a distance... That being said, you could try a long distance relationship, but I don't know if that's a good idea since her family hates you. ( you can't keep it secret as easy, since you can't visit quickly during the night)

As for the situation with your current girlfriend, don't fuck with her feelings. Seeing she is a virgin, and wants you to pop her cherry, she thinks you're special. If you do sleep with her, and brake up with her a couple of months later, you'll seriously hurt her. Either brake it up with her now, or stay with her.

Furthermore, I don't know what time it is where you live, but don't make any decisions when you're either drunk or when it's after 2 am (cheesy, I know, but true nonetheless). Sleep it over, and think about it again, tomorrow. Also, check if there is something like a youth hotline in your country, they are trained specialists who are hired to help people like you.
 
Stybar said:
I hate to be a buzz killer, but 800 kilometers is quite a distance... That being said, you could try a long distance relationship, but I don't know if that's a good idea since her family hates you. ( you can't keep it secret as easy, since you can't visit quickly during the night)
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2 LDR's later, and I'm in the position I'm in right now. I probably should have mentioned that earlier.

Stybar said:
As for the situation with your current girlfriend, don't fuck with her feelings. Seeing she is a virgin, and wants you to pop her cherry, she thinks you're special. If you do sleep with her, and brake up with her a couple of months later, you'll seriously hurt her. Either brake it up with her now, or stay with her.
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I'm considering the first option, personally. I mean, she's a beautiful girl and I do love her, just not in the couple sort of way.

Stybar said:
Furthermore, I don't know what time it is where you live, but don't make any decisions when you're either drunk or when it's after 2 am (cheesy, I know, but true nonetheless). Sleep it over, and think about it again, tomorrow. Also, check if there is something like a youth hotline in your country, they are trained specialists who are hired to help people like you.
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I'm a night owl, I am awake between 2PM and 5AM each day (as of posting this, it is 5AM, so bed time). I have been considering the option of breaking it off with her for a considerable amount of time now, so I think that should be a clear indicator to me that I should.

And trust me, I've checked. There are none in my area and any that are available are expensive. Besides, I'm over seeing psychiatrists and psychologists. They just make me feel worse than I already am, and usually that's after trips to the hospital for personal reasons.

I'm sober now too and I finished a 2 hour conversation with Ash whilst still intoxicated (12AM - 2AM).

:wow:fftopic: I like how I said Stybar in my OP and you posted :3
 
SovareZza said:
Stybar said:
Also, check if there is something like a youth hotline in your country, they are trained specialists who are hired to help people like you.
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And trust me, I've checked. There are none in my area and any that are available are expensive. Besides, I'm over seeing psychiatrists and psychologists. They just make me feel worse than I already am, and usually that's after trips to the hospital for personal reasons.
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I'm not saying that you should go to a practicing psychiatrist, way to expensive. I was talking about this. It's a hotline for youths with problems. They are hired to deal with persons who have problems like you.
 
SovareZza add me on Skype maveee_
If you ever need an IM serious talk, I'm on Skype 20/24.

Please keep us up to date on what you are going to do as I'm interested in how the situation will develop and what you will do.
Also the TMS brotherhood in general, we're here for you man.
 
:troll: I say fuck the living shit out of her bro, hit it from the left & hit it from the right

Mave said:
SovareZza add me on Skype maveee_
If you ever need an IM serious talk, I'm on Skype 20/24.

Please keep us up to date on what you are going to do as I'm interested in how the situation will develop and what you will do.
Also the TMS brotherhood in general, we're here for you man.
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=D Yes I recommend Mave's serious man to man talks, they're life savers :megusta:
 
Well, since I am also quite drunk at the moment, I'll ask you a question as well.
So the situation is this: In my previous job, I worked every other Saturday. So one week I worked, the next I had the day off, the next week I worked again, and so on. On the Saturdays I didn't have to work, there was another student, a cute girl who was a couple of years (about 2 years) older then me. I worked with her on some occasions, and in holidays (in holidays, I worked together with her on Friday and Saturday), but never saw her besides my work.
I always liked her, but didn't have the balls to do more than ask her how her week was, or anything more than small chat in the hours when there were no customers. She didn't talk very much, but then again, she was very shy. I invited her a couple of times (twice) to a homeparty, but she always said that she had other appointments. At some time, we had to work together for a month, and we started having some nice conversations about whatever, and I got the feeling she opened up to me a bit. Problem is, that month was my last month, which means that I quit my job after I got to "know" her.
My question to you guys is: do you think I should try and ask her on a date or something? No serious advice needed, just your opinion. I'm kinda doubting, because I quit my job about 7 months ago...

PS:
Any questions because my explanation is vague? My apologies, I'm drunk. So post your questions, I'll answer them tomorrow.
 
^ My "advice" is, have 2 shots of vodka, (not enough to get you legless drunk, just socialable cool guy drunk), go there when she works, and ask her out like a boss. (Take flowers man, may sound gay, but chicks love that) - then in 5 months you are tappin' dat ass'.

But srsly, ask her out mang. the worst thing you can feel is regret, what if she was the one, or what would it have been like etc.
 
That was my idea as well, but because of my new job, I can't do that. I now have to work every Saturday, which means that when she works, I work.
I was thinking about some pussy methods, like sending her a message on facebook, and if she declines, pretend that someone fraped you, but I don't want to use that method since it is, well, kinda spineless...
 
Stybar said:
That was my idea as well, but because of my new job, I can't do that. I now have to work every Saturday, which means that when she works, I work.
I was thinking about some pussy methods, like sending her a message on facebook, and if she declines, pretend that someone fraped you, but I don't want to use that method since it is, well, kinda spineless...
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Well it is spineless DEPENDING on the circumstances, if you are able to see her when she works, sure it is spineless, if you can't then no.

Just hit her up on fb, ask her out, don't be a fag that takes her to the movies, take her out for ice-cream and walking & be creative etc, do it mern.
 
Don't listen to Dion, he can't pick up bitches. (Just kidding! I'm sure he can pick up bitches just fine)

Anywho, find some time to go and see her at work. Even if it's 5 minutes or something, I don't know. Take a bunch of flowers, and go in there looking like a boss. Do NOT go in while wearing your work clothes, that will not work for you. It does not work for anyone. Ever.

If she rejects you (50/50 considering how long you've been gone), ask if you can get to know her a little more anyway, and then ask again in a few months. Tell her to keep the flowers and, oh yeah, leave her your mobile number or get hers. Call her in a few days and ask if she wants to get a drink or something, just as friends.

Start from the bottom and work your way up again if you have to.
 
^ You essentially said to do what I told him to do, yet you said I don't know how to pick up bitches, so you copy what I say, you can't either bro?
 
^ You said he should do it over Facebook, I said he should be a cute as fuck boss and ask her out in person. No wonder I have a girlfriend and you don't, brother.

What was that about being ownt?
 
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